What is sex coaching?
Sex coaching is not therapy. And, it’s not sex work. I know the latter may sound weird to say, but just in case there were any questions!
It’s not someone telling you how to “do it right.” Sex coaching is having someone who’s trained to help you get clear on what you want, work through any blocks or shame related to sexuality and desire, and helping you actually feel more confident and connected when it comes to sex and pleasure.
You might talk about desire, communication, body image, performance anxiety, past experiences, fantasies, literally anything to do with sex, relationships and love. And as your coach, I help you unpack it without judgment, without pressure. Just real, honest support.
Sometimes it’s talking and helping you process, problem solve and learn skills. Sometimes it includes guided somatic practices or homework you try on your own or with a partner, like breathwork, touch, self-pleasure rituals, or exploring boundaries and turn-ons. As a somatically trained sex coach, a big part of the work is engaging with your body’s wisdom whether it being a somatic experience like meditation or guiding an actual practice that you could then do in your own life, either with yourself or with a partner.
It’s important to note that this work does not involved exchanging of touch between coach or client. And all practices and processes that are guided, whether it is a movement practice, deep healing tool, or pleasure exploration is with your consent and most importantly, completed with your own self and body.
Sex coaching, is for anyone, singles, couples, all genders and people who are curious, confused, feeling stuck, or just want more aliveness in their intimacy.
However, if you find yourself in a state of crisis or extremely dysregulated due to present or past trauma, it is recommended you first seek the support of a trained trauma therapist. Great news is that I have ample experience working with trauma, so when you’re in a stable place to be ready to dive into somatic sex coaching and/or seeing a therapist, I am happy to work with you. I have seen wonderful results with my clients who are also working with a psychotherapist, doctor, pelvic floor physio etc.
At the end of the day, sex coaching is about reconnecting with your own body, your desires, and learning how to express that with confidence and care.
How does it differ from therapy?
Traditional therapy usually explores the past or active symptoms such as childhood, trauma, mental health challenges. It’s more clinical, more about diagnosis and emotional healing. And don’t get me wrong, therapy is so important for that deeper psychological work.
Sex coaching, on the other hand, is more present and future-focused. It’s like, “Where are you now? Where do you want to be? And how can we get you there in a way that feels safe, playful, and empowering?”
It’s more action-based. So instead of just talking about your issues with sex or intimacy, we explore what’s underneath it, and then we give you tools and practices to actually shift it. It might be body-based stuff, mindset work, communication skills, or just helping you feel more confident expressing what you really want. Coaching is is a journey with a goal and desire in mind and heart that collaborative. It’s not about diagnosing you or fixing anything, it’s about growth, pleasure, and deeper connection to what you want in life.
Therapy helps you understand why you are the way you are. Coaching helps you create the version of you that you want to be.
Tantra, Tao and Intimacy Practices
Tantra and intimacy practices are a huge part of sex coaching, but not in the super woo-woo or intimidating way you might think.
It’s more about helping you get out of your head and into your body. A lot of us carry shame, pressure, or just a total disconnect when it comes to pleasure, and Tantra gives us a way to slow down and actually feel again. Not just physically, but emotionally and energetically.
As a graduate with multiple certifications in the VITA Coaching Method, I use Tantric and Taoist sex teachings blended with neuroscience and somatic therapy, and see sexuality as:
- A practice of embodied awakening, not just pleasure or performance
A way to alchemize trauma and expand your energetic body
A return to innocence and primal wisdom
These lineages explore:
Sexual energy = life force = creative power
Orgasmic energy can be used for healing, manifestation, and spiritual expansion
Breath, sound, and movement are key to unlocking deeper pleasure and full-body orgasms
In coaching, that might look like learning how to breathe for deeper relaxation and pleasure, how to move sexual energy through your body, or how to tune into sensation without rushing to a goal. It’s about letting go of performing and tuning into presence.
We also use a lot of practices to help you explore your own pleasure, like self-touch rituals, mirror work, or even just learning how to say what you really want out loud. Sometimes the work is gentle and soft. Sometimes it’s fiery and powerful. But it’s always about reconnecting with yourself first, because real intimacy starts there.
Tantra in this space helps you rewire how you think about sex altogether as well as see the divine in ALL your experiences from the painful emotions and shadows to your celebrations and bliss. It becomes less about getting somewhere fast and more about enjoying the journey fully. Feeling alive. Feeling safe in your own skin. Letting your sexuality be something sacred, not something hidden or judged.
How often do I attend?
Honestly, it’s super personal. Some clients attend weekly when they’re really diving into something big, like healing, exploring their sexuality, or building confidence. Others prefer every other week or once a month to give themselves time to process and integrate between sessions. I do recommend that when find a flow and regular interval for sessions, meeting on the same day each week if possible so we can really get into the work and see the shifts happen!
It’s not like there’s one set rule or “ideal” schedule. It depends on your pace, your goals, and what feels doable in your life. Some folks complete the 10-12 sessions, get exactly what they need and may come back for integration sessions later when something new comes up or continue attending courses or events I host. Others love having that regular support to keep the momentum going and work together long term.
As we work. together, I will usually help you figure out what rhythm makes the most sense for you. It’s really about what feels most supportive and nourishing for you.
If you are women looking for sex & intimacy coaching, my Reclaim 10 Session program may be for you.
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